Friendship troubles
When you’re friends with someone, you would like to believe that they are actually a good person. That they value your friendship and that they would never lie, or do anything to hurt you. You don’t want to think about the possibility that this person is actually someone completely different when you aren’t around. But what are you supposed to do when a friend you thought would always be there for you, turns out to someone you don’t even recognize?
It is really hard to accept the fact that somebody isn’t the person you thought they were. It is even harder when you have known this person for your entire life, and are just now finding out who they really are. My friend and I have always gotten into arguments, even when we were younger. However, it was never over anything major. But in the past few years our relationship has turned less into a friendship, and more into an inconvenience. Whenever we try to do something it is always an argument, and when we aren’t fighting we are talking about their issues. I feel as though they do not value our friendship as much as I once thought.
I have realized that sometimes people are just not worth having in your life, no matter who they are, or how long you have known them. It can be really upsetting when you have to let someone go, but in the end, if they do not bring happiness into your life, then there is no point in keeping them around.
This type of scenario is something I am sure most of us have gone through, at some point in our lives. Whether it be with a friend or significant other, what hurts the most is when you realize they are starting to pull away and lose interest. As you watch that person who had been almost like a sibling to you and who knows the ins and outs about you slowly slip way, it can feel like more than just losing a friend, it feels like losing family. Although these circumstances are difficult and can be very upsetting at the moment, it is important to realize that unfortunately these are the challenges we are going to face in life. What I like to live by is the motto, "friends will come and go but family is forever". The moment you take a step back and reevaluate the amazing people still in your life, it can lessen the blow of losing someone that important to you. Leaning on family members during this time is helpful as well, as you can then notice what true love and friendship is.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Sometimes letting go of the one person who you always thought was going to be with you can be extremely hard. Not having that one person you could always count on no matter what can be tough. But sometimes you need to put yourself first and think about whether this is worth it for you. Think am I truly happy in this relationship. Doing what is best is not always easy for you but it may end up being more beneficial to you. I agree with Hailey, hopefully your family will always love you and be there for you no matter what.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely. You have to let go of people who bring you down. I really do think it is important to monitor your friend group. However, I would like to make a little bit of a counter argument. I think that having the ability to argue indicates a significant level of trust in a relationship. If you and your friend are able to have open discussions, it means that you both trust each other immensely.
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